"The spark isn't gone — you're just bored."

Ready to reignite things? Try something new. Something… remotely exciting.

"Remote Control, Meet Romance"

Feeling like things are on repeat in the bedroom (or living room… or kitchen)?

A remote-controlled toy adds just enough surprise to make your connection feel brand new again.

"1. Road Trip Shenanigans 🚗"

Great for the passenger seat. Even better when paired with a little giving spirit.

Pro tip: Use it to build anticipation before you reach your destination.

"2. Spice Up Stir Fry 🍜"

Dinner duty? Turn up the heat with a little buzz while you sauté.

You’ll find yourself looking forward to after-dinner activities.

"3. Sound-On, Hands-On 🎧"

Some remote toys sync with sound. That means… the more ahem effort you put in, the more intense the response.

Comment “REMOTE” if you want our fave app-controlled pick. 🔥

"4. Date Night Classic 🍷"

Out to dinner with a spicy little secret?

Remote toys let you play it cool while keeping things warm under the table.

Discreet. Naughty. Unforgettable.

"It’s not about fixing... it’s about mixing."

Sometimes the best way to reignite the spark is to shake up the routine.

Remote toys = unexpected fun, shared laughs, and wild connection.

"Want to try it?"

Drop a 🔥 or COMMENT “REMOTE” and we’ll send you our top picks for beginners (and bold ones too).

The spark’s not lost — it’s waiting for a signal.

Can’t Focus During Intimacy? It Might Be ADHD.

If your brain is running through your to-do list when things are heating up, you’re not alone.

ADHD symptoms can show up in the bedroom — and they do affect connection.

Two Common ADHD Challenges That Affect Intimacy

Overstimulation –
when everything feels too much

Understimulation –
when your brain checks out

Let’s break them down (and fix them)

Overstimulation = Shutdown Mode 🧠

For some ADHDers, sensory overload leads the nervous system to shut everything down — including pleasure.

Do this enough times, and your brain may start associating intimacy with discomfort.

Solutions for Overstimulation ✨

✅ Start slow: Sit with your partner in stillness — no touching, just breathing.

✅ Try pressure play: Being gently restrained can feel grounding (like a weighted blanket).

✅ Shower together: Warm water can soothe the senses and reset the mood. Plus, less sensory mess.

Understimulation = Distraction Mode 💭

Your body’s there, but your brain is scrolling TikTok in your head.

This inattentiveness can disconnect you from pleasure and your partner.

Solutions for Understimulation 🎯

✅ Add sensation: Try warming gels, vibration, or textured play to capture your focus.

✅ Explore something new: Novelty naturally boosts attention and excitement in the ADHD brain.

The key: Don’t fight your brain. Work with it.

Your Neurodivergent Brain Isn’t Broken — It’s Unique.

When you understand how your mind works, connection becomes easier — and way more fun.

Need recommendations?
Drop TOOLS and we’ll share our ADHD-friendly faves. 🧰💕

You’re Probably Doing Kegels Wrong

Want to boost desire and enjoy stronger finishes?

🗝️ Kegels are key — but clench-and-release isn’t enough.

Let’s Talk About Kegels (The Right Way)

Most people squeeze and hope for the best.

But real pelvic floor strength comes from technique — and variety.

Try This Straw Trick First 🧃

💨 Grab a straw and suck in through it.
Feel that gentle lift deep inside your lower core?

That’s what a good Kegel should feel like.

Now… Blow Out Through the Straw

That release is just as important as the squeeze.

Many people skip this part — but relaxing the pelvic floor is half the magic.

Switch Up the Position 🧘‍♀️

Kegels shouldn’t only be done while sitting. Try:

🔹 On your back
🔹 On hands and knees
🔹 While standing
🔹 Walking around

Training in different positions = real strength.

Level It Up With a Partner or Vibe 💫

Once you’ve practiced control solo, try engaging your pelvic floor with a vibe or during partnered play.

This builds awareness, confidence, and deeper sensation.

Stronger Floor = Stronger Finish

The more connected you are to your core muscles, the easier it is to feel pleasure — and enjoy it fully.

Want tool recommendations or a how-to guide?

Drop “KEGELS” and we’ll send you our favorites. 💬

Backdoor?
It’s In — and We’ve Got the Stats.

1 in 3 people are enjoying backdoor play.

But most aren’t going in — they’re staying outside.

Yep, 78% of folks explore externally only!

Surprised? Let’s Look at the Numbers 📊

Recent research says:

• 36% of straight women enjoy backdoor play
• 44% of straight men are into it
• 78% of bi men love it
• Most gay men and women enjoy exploring this area too

It’s way more common than you think.

Why It Feels So Good (Without Going In)

The outer area is packed with nerve endings — more than many expect.

Stimulating the surrounding muscles and skin can spark deep, focused sensations.

Here's some tips:

1. Go Beyond the Bullseye 🎯

Start with the entire backside, not just one spot.

Use warm hands or massage oil to rub, press, and knead the cheeks.

It boosts blood flow — and connects to the full pleasure network.

2. Tease the Edge — Don’t Rush In

Work in soft, circular motions around the opening.

Try mixing light touches with firmer pressure.

Hint: most of the sensation lives right at the rim.

3. Try a Little Vibration 🔋

A buzzing toy placed at the perineum or outer area can add layered sensation.

Bonus: change the pattern or rhythm for a whole new vibe.

4. Yes… Even the Tongue 👅

Some folks enjoy a gentle mouth-on approach.

Cleanliness, consent, and communication are key — but when it’s right, it’s a very popular move.

Backdoor Play = More Than You Think

You don’t have to go deep to feel deep pleasure.

Curious to try?

Drop the word TOOLKIT and we’ll send our favorite intro-friendly tips and toys. 💌

Planning Intimacy? Sounds… Unsexy. But It Works.

We’ve been told intimacy should be spontaneous.

But real life? It's busy, noisy, and full of distractions.

Planning doesn’t kill the mood — it creates space for it.

Think About It This Way…

You plan vacations, date nights, even self-care days — and still have a great time.

Why should intimacy be any different?

When It Matters, You Put It On the Calendar 📅

Yep, even the fun stuff.

When intimacy becomes a priority, it deserves time, space, and intention.

How to Plan Your Next Connection Sesh 💫

Step 1: Talk It Out

Share what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you’d like to try.

This builds trust — and makes things way more exciting.

Step 2: Pick Something Together

Choose a new vibe, a silky outfit, or a favorite lube.

Letting the anticipation build is half the fun — and yes, planning can be foreplay.

Step 3: Clear the Chaos 🕯️

• Book childcare.
• Feed the pets.
• Create a quiet space with low lights, cozy blankets, or soft music.
  

Remove distractions, and the moment becomes easier to enjoy.

Step 4: Don’t Skip the Wind-Down 🧸

Ask each other: “How do you want to feel cared for afterward?”

Aftercare isn’t just for intense play — it boosts emotional safety and future desire.

Intimacy Isn’t Less Special When You Plan It

It’s more intentional.
And that makes all the difference.

Follow along for more of our favorite checklists, tools, and tips. 💌

Did You Know Your Cl!tøris Can Get… Erect?

Yep — just like other body parts, it fills with blood when aroused.

If that’s not happening? You may be starting at a disadvantage.

Let’s Talk Anatomy 🔍

Your Cl!tøris isn’t just the little bud you see — it’s shaped like a wishbone!

🔸 The head (glans) is visible
🔸 The bulbs and arms surround the taco opening

When filled with blood, this whole network lights up with sensation.

Turn On the Mind, First 🧠

Arousal starts in your brain.

Thoughts, whispers, scent, memory — they send signals to the body to increase blood flow.

Mental stimulation is physical stimulation.

Touch That Sparks Circulation ✋

Start at the head, then explore:

✨ Hips
✨ Buttocks
✨ Inner thighs

These areas help warm up the entire pelvic region — not just one spot.

The Outer Lips Holds a Secret…

Hidden just beneath? The Cl!tøral bulbs.

Gently massaging this area increases blood flow and builds intensity. Give it time — at least 10–20 minutes — for full effect.

Short on Time? Try This ⏱️

Vasodilation creams boost blood flow faster — safely and effectively.

More circulation = more sensation.
Drop AROUSAL for our favorite go-to that works in minutes. 💬

She’s Not Just a Button — She’s a Whole Network

When you take time to fill the Cl!tøris with blood, pleasure follows more naturally — and more intensely.

Start slow, get the brain involved, and don’t skip the warmup.
You deserve it.

🟣 Uncomfy intimacy?

This might be why...

Before anything goes in—your body needs to open up.

Literally.

It's called Ⓥȁginȁl tenting.

As ȁrousal builds, the internal canal expands and lifts—making things smoother, easier, and way more comfortable.

But if you skip the warm-up?

You’re working with a space that’s not ready yet—
Which often means pain, tightness, or no pleasure at all.

So how do you pitch the tent?

Start from the top:

🧠 Arouse your mind
👃 Arouse your senses
💃 Arouse your body

Spend 10–20 minutes

...in the arousal phase before any deeper play. That gives your body time to naturally stretch, lubricate, and get ready.

Busy? Need a shortcut?

<insert name> cream is designed to boost blood flow and sensation in under 2 minutes. Complete physical readiness?

Yes please.
They’re like a head start for your body. Drop the word CREAM for the link

⏳ Give your body time.
🧠 Wake up your brain.
✨ Let pleasure build.

Comfort and connection are worth the warm-up.

⚠️ Painful intimacy?

It’s the #1 reason many women turn OFF—physically and mentally.

Pain isn’t normal.

It’s your body’s way of saying:
“Stop—something’s not right.”

Keep pushing through, and your brain might start treating sex like trauma.

Common causes of pain:

💧 Dryness
🌀 Cramping
⛔ Low arousal
🧠 Vaginismus
🩸 Endometriosis
🔴 Vulvar cysts
…and more

Good news? You’ve got options.
Here are 4 ways to reduce pain

👇 1. Use lube—lots of it.

Some formulas reduce pain, not just dryness.

2. Understand where it hurts.

If it’s only at entry, try outer play or use a barrier sleeve to limit depth.

3. Stretch first

Dilators can release tension and prep your body to feel more at ease.

4. Vibration helps!

Use a low setting on the outer area to relax muscles during play.

🛠️ Want links to the tools mentioned?

Comment TOOLS and I’ll send them your way.

Your body deserves comfort.
Your brain deserves safety.
Start there—and pleasure can follow.

🍭 How to Blow His Mind

Ɵral tips to make him melt—and help you enjoy it, too.

Let’s be honest:

They want enthusiasm.
You want it to be enjoyable.

✅ Yes, that’s possible.
Here’s how to meet in the middle.

🔥 Tip 1: Master the Technique

Confidence = pleasure.
Start at the base, liɕk your way up, then back down. Swirl around the top, then slowly take him in—inch by inch.

👀 Focus your energy on the first two inches—light teasing, slow build.

💧 Tip 2: Make It Comfortable

Struggle going deep?

An øral gel can help relax your reflex and improve the taste. Want the one I recommend? Drop the word GEL below and I’ll send the link.

🎯 Tip 3: Make It Hot for You

Here’s a next-level secret:

• Try using a hands-free vibɇ on yourself while giving.
• Pleasure yourself while you’re giving pleasure.

That energy? Unmatched.adventures

💥 Bonus Move:

Right as your moment hits, lock eyes with him… and finish what you started.

Total game-changer.

Ɵral doesn’t have to be a chore.

With the right tools, rhythm, and mindset— You can both enjoy the ride.

🪢 What’s the deal with kȉȵk?

Ropes, ties, power play… it’s trending.
But why is it so hot—and what can we learn from it?

🎯 Clear rules = clear safety

kȉȵk play starts with structure.
You know what’s allowed, what’s off-limits, and who’s in control.

That clarity? Surprisingly freeing.

💬 Consent is everything

Mutual agreement.
Ongoing check-ins.
Full-body “yes.”
That kind of trust? That’s hot.

🎭 Immersive play

kȉȵk is one of the few spaces where adults get to truly play.

No deadlines. No to-do lists.
Just presence, sensation, and exploration.

💫 Your pleasure > Your performance

Many people avoid intimacy because of performance pressure.

kȉȵk flips the script:
Unless performance is your thing, the focus shifts to what you actually enjoy.

🌌 Fantasy exploration

Creating a world that isn’t your everyday life?

That’s part of the fun.
You step in, explore it, then step out—fulfilled and free.

🫂 Aftercare = essential

The “come-down” after intense connection is real.

Emotions, hormones, energy… it’s a shift.
Taking care of each other after is part of the play.

kȉȵk isn’t just about ropes and roles.

It’s about trust, intention, and tuning into what you like.

Want a place to start? Drop the word PLAY 👇 Then it's about communication—and explore at your own pace.

👀 Your partner wants a thrɇɇsoɱe…

But you’re not into it.
Is there a middle ground?

Thrɇɇsoɱes are one of the top fantasies for millennials—

And with today’s fluid relationship dynamics, it’s no surprise.
But if it’s not your thing, what now?

Start with the WHY.

No judgment. No assumptions.
What’s behind the fąntąꞩy?

Some common reasons:

✨ They want to feel completely desired & be the center of attention
🎥 They’re turned on by the visual of watching you
🌶️ They’re craving variety or spice

Once you know the why, you can find the how.

Here’s how to meet in the middle—without crossing your boundaries.

💫 They want to feel like the center of attention?

Plan a night where they’re the star.
Cater to them. Let them soak in the spotlight.

🎭 They want variety?

Try rǿleplay. Be someone new.
Switch up the energy, the vibe, the dynamic.

👁️ They love the visual of you receiving plɘąsure?

Use a solo tǿy with them watching.
Suction-style tǿys are perfect for this.

(Need a rec? Drop the word VIBE for my fave.)

Meeting in the middle...

doesn’t mean abandoning your comfort zone.

It means getting creative—with communication, curiosity, and trust.

And don’t forget:

Once you’ve explored their fąntąꞩy…
It’s your turn.
✨ Your desires deserve the spotlight, too.

👀 Your partner wants a thrɇɇsoɱe…

But you’re not into it.
Is there a middle ground?

Thrɇɇsoɱes are one of the top fantasies for millennials—

And with today’s fluid relationship dynamics, it’s no surprise.
But if it’s not your thing, what now?

Start with the WHY.

No judgment. No assumptions.
What’s behind the fąntąꞩy?

Some common reasons:

✨ They want to feel completely desired & be the center of attention
🎥 They’re turned on by the visual of watching you
🌶️ They’re craving variety or spice

Once you know the why, you can find the how.

Here’s how to meet in the middle—without crossing your boundaries.

💫 They want to feel like the center of attention?

Plan a night where they’re the star.
Cater to them. Let them soak in the spotlight.

🎭 They want variety?

Try rǿleplay. Be someone new.
Switch up the energy, the vibe, the dynamic.

👁️ They love the visual of you receiving plɘąsure?

Use a solo tǿy with them watching.
Suction-style tǿys are perfect for this.

(Need a rec? Drop the word VIBE for my fave.)

Meeting in the middle...

doesn’t mean abandoning your comfort zone.

It means getting creative—with communication, curiosity, and trust.

And don’t forget:

Once you’ve explored their fąntąꞩy…
It’s your turn.
✨ Your desires deserve the spotlight, too.