SUBJECT:
What toy goes where? (and what do they do? 🤯)
PREVIEW:
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BODY:
If you’ve ever looked at a toy and thought… “Okay wait. What does this do… and where does it even go?”
You’re not alone. And you don’t need a PhD in sexy to figure it out.
I figured a simple guide might help!
So check out the most common types of toys, where they go, and what they do below:
1) External Vibrators
We usually call them clitoral toys, but they are so much more than that! They range from finger tip vibes, bullets, to palm sized hand helds, and Wands also fit in this category and provide strong, broad vibration.
Goes where: Outside only (usually against the vulva, clitoris, nipples, anywhere external, they can also typically be used on male hot spots too).
What it does: Quick, targeted pleasure to a women's most sensitive erogenous zone
Why you’d want it: Easy O's, reliable, increase pleasure and sensation, simple to incorporate into partnered play, beginner-friendly, and great for when you just wanna get off.
2) Curved Internal Toys
These are all about the G-Spot baby! But they can be more comfortable for women with a tilted uterus as well.
Goes where: Inside the vagina.
What it does: Targets internal pleasure points with a curved shape, you just want to make sure it's pointed towards the front to target the G-Spot.
Why you’d want it: If you are on the hunt for your G-Spot, or next G-Spot O. Internal stimulation when paired with external stimulation can lead to stronger blended orgasms. Some women really love a deeper sensation, or having something inserted.
3) Internal Toys
These are usually straight, no curve. Typically they are more like a traditional dildo, or more realistic, and sometimes they vibrate as well. To be honest, as the curved shape started to take off, this category became slightly less popular for vibrators, but dildo's are still going strong!
Goes where: Vagina
What it does: Fullness and steady internal stimulation (you control the rhythm, depth, and pressure) of penetration.
Why you’d want it: Simple, classic and more realistic depending on the toy. Great for variety, exploration, and that “full” feeling without needing a bunch of settings.
4) Dual-stimulation Toys
These are the "hit all the spots" heroes, and stimulate inside and outside.
Goes where: One part inside, usually inserted vaginally, one part outside, usually against the clitoris (but the doesn't mean you can't flip it around, or use it wherever it feels good)
What it does: Gives you “both at once” sensation, hits multiple pleasure points and can lead to strong blended orgasms.
Why you’d want it: Amazing when you want maximum payoff with minimal effort (we love efficiency).
5) Suction-style Toys
Or air pressure stimulators. These don't usually have full on suction, it's more of a "puff blow" or pulsating sensation that's getting wildly popular. They come in dual action, and clitoral only, but the air pressure is directed at the clitoris for a totally different type of stimulation.
Goes where: Against the clitoris
What it does: A different sensation than vibration, often leading to a very fast and intense orgasm.
Why you’d want it: If vibration isn’t your favorite, or you just want something new!
6) Couples Toys
This is a WHOLE email by itself, but we are talking rings, wearables (inserted during penetration), panty vibes, strap ons, remotes and apps! While you can technically use any toys together, it's fun to have some really designed for both of you to enjoy.
Goes where: Depends on the toy!
What it does: Adds sensation for one or both partners, boosts connection and excitement.
Why you’d want it: It’s the easiest way to spice things up and add some novelty. Couple's that play together, stay together!
7) Backdoor Toys
These can be for anyone, however the shape of backdoor toys for him are usually a little different to hit the prostate (curved and to the front). They may vibrate, or not, some even have rotation and other features. There are also anal training kits, that are designed more for comfort, and getting comfortable with insertion rather than immediate pleasure.
Goes where: Butt hole!
What it does: Fullness and pressure that can enhance pleasure for a lot of people, especially paired with external stimulation. For men, prostate stimulation can be extremely pleasurable, and for women, anal play can actually lead to really intense orgasms.
Why you’d want it: Variety, curiosity, and new sensations.
Safety note: always choose a toy with a flared base.
8) Strokers or Sleeves
These are penis toys! Usually sleeves are a soft sleeve with no vibration, and strokers usually refer to automated masturbators that may vibrate, stroke, have suction, rotation... there's all kinds of features
Goes where: On and around the penis
What it does: Texture and pressure that feels totally different than a hand.
Why you’d want it: Stronger orgasms, stamina practice, and honestly… a great tool for partnered play too. It's also just nice to change things up, and gives the hand a break.
Comfort note: always use a lubricant with sleeves and strokers.
... and I think we stop there! But there are so many different types of toys, and the main take away? Different types of toys provide different stimulation, and different experiences. Having a variety allows you to experiment and explore all the different types of pleasure that your body is capable of. Experimenting also means learning more about your personal likes, and dislikes which makes it easier to communicate your needs and preferences.
Toys are a great way to have fun, explore and increase pleasure.
For some they are the difference between having an orgasm, or none at all.
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LINK TO: Toy Category
If you decide you want to try something new, and need some help deciding, don't hesitate to reach out!
PS... everything feels better with lube, and if vibration isn't quite enough to get you there (maybe meds, or menopause) consider adding a tingly cooling or warming enhancement cream to increase blood flow.
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