Why does your partner poke you from behind while you’re doing housework? Turns out… chores are a turn on. 🧽🔥 Read on ➡️

69% of partners say domestic chores turn them on. And that number goes both ways. Why? 👀

Because seeing your partner do chores = feeling cared for. When we feel cared for, the bonding hormone releases — and suddenly, we want to… “complete” the bond. 💞

Make “choreplay” part of your couple ritual. Here’s how to turn everyday tasks into foreplay 👇

Hot: Folding laundry 🧺

Hotter: Fold three pieces… then remove one piece of clothing from your partner or you.  😉

Hot: Doing the dishes 🍽️
Hotter: Doing the dishes while secretly controlling your partner’s toy 😏

💡 Pro tip: Use sound mode — every time the water runs, it gets faster. 

Need a remote toy? Drop the word REMOTE a link to my fav

Hot: Vacuuming 🧹

Hotter: Vacuum in lingerie or boxers. Let your partner watch… but they can’t touch until you’re done. 😈

Next time you’re cleaning up, remember: Acts of service can be acts of seduction. Want my fave remote toy rec? Drop the word REMOTE below. 💬

You’re using your toys wrong.

Let’s fix that. 😉

Here’s how to actually use the most popular toys for maximum pleasure ➡️

1. The Clitoral Buzzer 🔋

The classic!

Vibration increases blood flow and heightens sensitivity on the clitoris — helping push you over the edge.

✨ Try this: use it with your partner during intimacy for a blended experience.

2. The G-Spot Vibe 🌊

Designed with a “perfect curve” to target internal pleasure points.

Most people insert too soon — slow down!

Start with external play to warm up and build blood flow.

Once aroused, use the tip of the toy on the first two inches inside (where the clitoral bulbs live!) for deeper stimulation.

Then insert and gently wiggle to find your spot. 💫

3. The C-Shape or U-Shape Toy 🔁

Science says it’s a fan favorite for couples. It’s wearable and designed for dual stimulation — but most people skip the build-up.

Instead of diving right in:

💋 Start with nipple or body play

🔥 Move the toy across the clitoris

💦 Use it solo first — then bring it into partner play for next-level connection.

Remember:

The magic isn’t just in the toy — it’s in how you use it. 💞

Want my top toy recs?

Drop the word TOY below for the links.

The secret to explosive backdoor pleasure? 👉 Play with the bean.

One in three couples enjoy backdoor play. Those who love it know: the real star is the clitoris. 🌟

Why?

Touching the clitoris during play helps the body relax, the pelvic floor release, and everything just… flows better. 💫

The backdoor has thousands of nerve endings, making sensations intense — especially when combined with clitoral stimulation.

Want to try it safely and comfortably? Here’s how to get started 👇

1️⃣ Lie on your back (missionary-style works great!)

2️⃣ Use a handheld or C-shaped vibe for dual sensations

3️⃣ Warm up with gentle external play around the labia

4️⃣ Add a generous amount of lubricant — everywhere. Think “glazed donut” levels of slippery 🍩😉

5️⃣ As you circle the clitoris, have your partner explore around the backdoor — slowly and patiently.

6️⃣ When you’re close to climax, sync sensations — internal + external = fireworks. 🎆 (Pro tip: keep a towel handy for cleanup!)

Pleasure is science — not taboo.

The key is communication, comfort, and the right tools. Want my go-to vibe + lube picks?

Drop the word TOOLS below. 🔧💋

Why your libido might be lower after having a baby (and how to fix it) 💞

Relationships have natural ebbs and flows — but a notoriously low time for libido is during the first two years postpartum.

We know some of the obvious reasons:
😴 Lack of sleep
🧖‍♀️ Lack of self-care
🚫 Lack of personal space
💭 PPD or PPA

But there’s another major player...

✨ Hormones.

When baby arrives, your body prioritizes bonding hormones — and most of them go straight to caring for your little one.

That bonding need used to be met through your partner.

Now it’s being met through your baby — which means less hormonal fuel for intimacy. ❤️‍🩹

It’s easy to feel guilty taking time away from baby…

but connection with your partner is still vital — it’s the foundation of your family. 🫶

Here’s how to find balance again 👇

1️⃣ Understand what’s happening. Awareness = empowerment. Knowing this is normal removes shame.

2️⃣ Create couple time.

No kids, no pets, no phones.

Let your partner know touch doesn’t have to mean sex — just connection.

3️⃣ Prioritize solo self-care.
Ask for time where no one needs “Mom.”
Your nervous system (and libido) will thank you.

4️⃣ Redefine intimacy.
Maybe it’s:
💋 Mutual touch
💞 Scheduled “connection nights”
🫶 Exploring pleasure without pressure

This won’t be the last time your relationship hits a pause —
having a plan helps keep love and connection strong. 💗
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Stop neglecting your sexuality just because you’re single.
💋 It’s time to master the solo date night.

You think:
“I’m single — sex is on hiatus.”
Let’s switch that up to:
“I’m single — time to find out what I really like.” 💫

Start by dating yourself.
These solo date tips help you reconnect with your body, confidence, and pleasure. 🌹

Tip 1: Explore new experiences.
✨ Try a new restaurant.
✨ Sign up for a class you’ve been eyeing.
✨ Go solo — and get to know you.
Exploration isn’t just for relationships — it’s how you grow desire.

Tip 2: Dress up for yourself.
Love your curves? Highlight them.
Feel powerful in lingerie? Wear it under your outfit.
Confidence looks incredible on you. 💃

Tip 3: Explore your body — slowly.
Start with a hot bath, then contrast it with cool water.
Touch your skin with different sensations — soft, firm, teasing.
It’s not about the goal — it’s about the journey.

Tip 4: Indulge in fantasy.
Whether it’s a spicy book, a sensual story, or guided audio — let your imagination lead.
End your night with relaxation, release, and rest. 💤

Your sexual self doesn’t take a break when you’re single — it evolves.
Make solo time sacred.
Want my favorite toy recommendations?
Drop the word TOY below. 🎁

How to Be Kinder to Your Sexual Self 💗

The #1 reason people avoid intimacy?
👉 A lack of confidence.
Confidence in our bodies, our performance, our connection — and everything in between.

These tips will help you rebuild kindness, confidence, and comfort in your sexual self. ✨

Tip 1: Start with self-consent.
Give yourself permission to be sexual.
You deserve pleasure, confidence, and connection — no apology needed.

Tip 2: Speak to your body with respect.
Instead of noticing what you want to change, notice what your body does for you.
Gratitude builds safety — and safety builds desire. 💞

Tip 3: Redefine “sexy.”
Sexy isn’t a look — it’s a feeling.
It’s comfort, laughter, curiosity, and being fully present.

Tip 4: Slow down.
Rushing creates pressure.
When you take your time, you invite pleasure to meet you where you are.

Tip 5: Practice non-sexual touch.
Cuddling, hand-holding, and gentle touch can help rebuild intimacy — without any goal attached.

Kindness fuels confidence.
Confidence fuels connection.
You are worthy of both. 🌸
Follow for more science-backed intimacy and self-love tips.

How to Eat a Pickle (Naughtily 😉)
A lesson in enthusiasm, rhythm, and… hydration.

Top Requests:
🥒 He wants enthusiasm
🎶 He wants sound
💦 He wants it a little… messy

Step 1: Start with a Show.
Before taking the first bite, show off your technique.
Lick your fingers. Twirl your tongue. Let them imagine the rest. 👀

Step 2: Take Control.
You’re the leader tonight.
Set the pace. Set the tone.
Make them wait for that first taste. Tie. his. hands.

Step 3: Slow and Steady.
Start at the tip of the pickle (obviously).
Take in just a little at a time while suckling
Savor the feeling, enjoy the moment, keep eye contact…until they are allllll the way back.
Cant go back without gagging? Use an oral gel to reduce that gag reflex…and make them taste delicious. Drop the word GEL for the link.

Step 4: Build the Rhythm.
ALTERNATE between light pressure…hard suckling…intensity…speed
Make sure they can hear how much you’re enjoying it.

Step 5: Add Some Sound.
A soft hum. A sigh.
Let them know the pickle is the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted.

Step 6: Finish Like a Pro.
When it’s over, don’t rush away.
Give the pickle a little encore performance. 🎤

Confidence. Curiosity. Connection.
That’s the real recipe for a memorable “pickle night.” 🥒💋
Want my fave “tasting gel”? Drop GEL below.

Title: Still Chasing the Big O in 2025?

Content: It's 2025, and let's be honest: orgasms aren't always guaranteed. We all know the clitoris is key, but sometimes positions don't prioritize her pleasure. Ready for some game-changing twists?

Title: Woman on Top: Grind Your Way to Bliss

Content: Ditch the up-and-down motion. Woman on top lets you control the angle and pressure. Think small, delicious circles. Feel that clitoral connection!

Title: Missionary Magic: The Coital Alignment Technique
Content: It's not just missionary. Align your pubic bones and move your hips in circles. Again…not in and out but moving the pelvis in a grind motion. This technique directly stimulates the clitoris and G-spot for maximum pleasure.

Title: Doggy Style: With a toy!
Content: Doggy style offers perfect access for clitoral stimulation. Grab a long-handled vibe to explore different pressures and angles. Prepare for explosive nights. Drop the word VIBE for my reccomendation

Title: Your Orgasm, Your Way!
Content: Ready to prioritize your pleasure? Try these twists and let us know what you think! Have a tried and true position? Share it below

Title: Men Like to Be Devoured Too!

Text: "Who says only women enjoy being taken over? Men also crave the release of letting go and surrendering to pleasure. 😈"

Title: The Secret to Ultimate Relaxation

Text: "Removing tension and stress is easier when you relinquish control. Tonight, experience the profound relaxation of being devoured."

Title: Switch It Up: YOU Take Charge

Text: "Tonight, let HIM be the object of YOUR desire. Embrace your power and explore a new level of intimacy. 🔥"

Title: How to Take Control: Step-by-Step

Text: "1. Text him NOW: 'I'm going to DEVOUR you tonight.' 2. Ask his limits. 3. Prep your ties. 4. Get ready to dominate. ✨"

Title: Setting the Scene: Communication is Key

Text: "Before you begin, ask what he's into (and NOT into). Establish a safe word for ultimate trust and pleasure."

Title: Tonight's the Night: Dominate with Desire

Text: "Grab your ties (Drop the word 'TIES' for a link to my faves 😉), look him in the eye, and demand he get into position. YOU are in charge."

Title: Command His Pleasure

Text: "Short, breathy commands: 'Open your mouth.' 'Move your hips.' 'Stay still.' Guide him, tease him, devour him. 😈"

Title: Relax and Surrender

Text: "Let him melt into your control. The key is trust, communication, and allowing him to fully surrender to your power. 😌"

Title: Don't Forget Aftercare!

Text: "Aftercare is crucial. Cuddle, talk, and cherish the connection you've created. Open communication is key to a good dynamic! ❤️"

Call to Action: Ready to Ignite the Passion?

Text: "Ready to explore your dominant side? Tag a friend who needs to see this! Follow for more tips on intimacy and pleasure. ➡️"

Title: Holiday Stress Relief: Inject Some Playful Heat!

Content: Holiday prep doesn't have to be stressful. Turn those to-do lists into opportunities for connection and spicy fun.

Title: ChorePlay: Divide and Conquer (with Rewards!)

Content: Sexy: Splitting up the holiday chores. Sexier: For every task completed, a steamy reward is earned.
Baked a pie? He eats your pie! Hung the decorations? He remotes YOUR decorations.

Title: Kitchen Kink: Cook Up Some Heat!

Content: Sexy: Cooking together. Sexier: A strip chef game! With each course prepped, remove an article of clothing. By dessert, you’ll be rubbing chocolate in all the right places ;)

Title: Cleaning with a Kick: Remote Control Fun!

Content: Sexy: Watching your partner clean. Sexier: Remote toy party! Each time you think of the other, change the setting. The first to finish gets... to finish.

Drop the word REMOTE for a link to a remote toy that will knock your socks off!

Title: Your Turn: Create Your Spicy Holiday Rituals!

Content: The holidays are about connection. What playful, sensual rituals will you create with your partner this season? Get creative and keep the spark alive! Follow along for more tips

Title: The unsung hero of couples with mismatched libidos

Content: You’ve finally made it to the end of the day and are ready to wind down…then you look over and watch your partner give you that "look"... sound familiar?

Title: Performing vs. Connecting: The Dilemma

Content: Rejecting again feels awful, but performing when you're not feeling it sucks too. There is a middle ground - and it’s hotter than you think

Title: Enter: Mutual Masturbation

Content: Masturbate together. Seriously. It's a game changer.

Title: The Science of Satisfaction

Content: Studies show couples with satisfying sex lives masturbate together... a lot!

It takes the pressure of performing off the table and relieves STRESS for both of you.

Title: Deeper Than You Think

Content: It's hot. It's vulnerable. Partners watching and learning each other's desires is a deep connection you didn’t know you were missing

Title: Hands-On (and Eyes-On!)

Content: Imagine looking into your partner's eyes while both of your hands work a sleeve up and down... or a buzzing friend all around. *delightful*

Title: The Perfect Compromise

Content: Keep the spark alive even when life (or the holidays!) gets stressful.

Title: Need Tools?

Content: Drop the word "TOOLS" in the DMs for my favs!

Title: The Gift They REALLY Want This Holiday Season

Text: This year, skip the sweater and give the gift that truly matters: more intimacy.

Title: Holiday Stress vs. Intimacy: Is it Possible?

Text: Holiday stress got you down? Intimacy doesn't have to disappear! With a little planning, you can keep the spark alive.

Title: Tip 1: Schedule It!

Text: Prioritize intimacy by putting it on the calendar NOW. Treat it like any other important appointment, and say NO to other obligations.

Title: Tip 2: Take Turns Planning Fantasies

Text: Spice things up by taking turns planning fantasy scenes. One night he plans, one night you plan, and one night you plan TOGETHER!

Title: Tip 3: Decide How Often & What Sets the Mood

Text: Decide NOW how often you want to be intimate.
What do you both need to feel "in the mood"? Self-care? Initiation? Discuss it beforehand!

Title: Tip 4: Plan for the "What Ifs"

Text: What if one of you isn't feeling it? Move it to the next day? Self-pleasure together? Compromise is key to a healthy relationship.

Title: Give the Gift of Intimacy this Season

Text: This holiday season, prioritize your connection. Follow along for more Spicy tips.